Here’s a Question that was recently asked:
“I recently met this nice guy, in fact, he’s really cool and I am enjoying talking to him more and more about everything, he’s a great kisser too, so that’s a step in the right direction! Well, it’s going well so far but when is the right time to get to that point? I mean we all know our hormones are raging and the kissing and touching can easily lead us to an ultimate orgasm, but what about all the other stuff!”
If you don’t know, then let’s give you a few little lessons below:
1. Couples need Sex 101 first. Find out what turns you on and talk about it. I mean REALLY talk about it. What buttons need pushing, what buttons didn’t get pushed in the last relationship and you really want to make sure that happens in this one if you really like the guy.
2. Anyone can get a Fu-k. Remember that! This isn’t about that! It’s about the importance of the catch, the planted seed inside the soul and then if all goes well, the most amazing sex that one could ever have. Once you REALLY know how each other FEELS what else could be better than SHOWING the other person and FEELING the other person the way that YOU want to feel. Touching, hugging, tickling, laughing, and playing…this isn’t brain surgery folks!
3. Take showers together, take baths together. OK, (so you can always clean off afterwards by yourself,) but soak in a tub with candles, a good bottle of wine (or whatever) and listen to some music and just sit there talking and rubbing on each other. Remember the movie: “Pretty Woman.” It dosen’t take much! Remember, after you have already said what you like, you’ve already done some touching, then now would be a good time to experiment.
4. Use TOYS. Find out what you both like BEFORE you plunge into having sex. Make a list a check it twice! See what toys are naughty and nice! Shop together if you’re not shy. Please bring them out from under the bed and show them to each other and describe to each other which one does what, and what you like about it. And MEN don’t be shy! That’s right, there’s a lot of toys out there for you too! And Ladies LEARN how to use them to make him scream too!!
5. Role play. If you don’t know what that is, I suggest you look it up on the internet. I mean REALLY role play! Get Into Character!!! Don’t just dress up, but pretend you have been just cast in a movie and the director says” ACTION! Well, do your homework! BOTH OF YOU! That’s right, I see all these little dress up outfits for the ladies like the little maid, belly dancer, etc…Hey guys! I once had a guy put a black cape over his head and wrapped himself up so I could only see those big green eyes staring at me, no face, no emotion coming out from his face other than through his eyes! Now tell me that isn’t HOT ladies!!
6. Pay attention to what YOU TWO are saying OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM when talking about sex. That way you won’t FORGET what to do when that moment of pleasure knocks on your door and takes your socks off!! xoxoDani
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