Better Sex, Lover: 8 Miraculous Secrets

I love this website: Better-sex-4-women. After posting my blog ” Sex, it doesn’t take much to get it right,” I stumbled upon on this website (http://www.better-sex-4-women.com/) and now receive their posts from some of the most amazing women regarding sex, love, and relationship information. From sex poles to orgasm tips, there is something for everyone including “just for men” too.

Recently, Dr. Mia Glanville gave her secrets to being a great lover and I thought I would share this with you, this is her article:

Like a crusader, I’ve dedicated the last 16+ years of my life to finding the holy grail of satisfying sex. I wanted information about sex that was accurate, reliable, and helpful and not tied to the myths and misleading depictions of the adult-male porn industry – and I knew other women wanted this information as well. Armed with a doctorate in Psychology, I’ve worked with thousands of individuals and hundreds of couples who tell me that they don’t know the secrets of how to make their sex lives work. This is why I went on my own personal journey of demystifying the elusive mystery of what it takes to be an extraordinary lover.

While on this quest I studied happy couples (hard to find, but I did) and sought advice from Eastern and Western mentors, teachers, other psychologists, self-help gurus and sages, so I could find the secret lessons that would make me understand what satisfying sex is all about. These are the questions I asked myself:

- What are the best-of-the-best secrets of having great, ongoing sex?

- Why do some couples have sensational sex and others don’t?

- What keep the passion-fire burning in a relationship?

- Is it possible for anyone to become a great lover?

And finally I “got it!” But most importantly what I learned can help you…

Be an Extraordinary Lover!

You see, what I discovered are the simple, profound truths that make sex miraculous. These secrets pertain directly to how sex invigorates your entire relationship. I have seen firsthand that truly dynamite sex comes not just from technique, but from mastering the underlying dynamics of relationships. Some of these secrets may at first seem like common sense, but one thing I’ve learned is that when it comes to keeping the charge of intimacy, common sense isn’t all that commonly practiced.

8 Miraculous Secrets

How to be a great lover becomes possible with the following secrets:

1. Many people assume that being a great lover is about learning tips on technique, but that is far from the truth. Even though you’ll find a lot written about technique on this very website, there is more to sizzling sex than ‘what goes where’ and for how long. Great Lovers possess an attitude toward sex that is open and curious; they’re willing to learn something new about sex – always and forever. Not only that, they understand the power of their own sexuality, are willing to share it with their partners and will do whatever it takes to keep the flames of passion alive.

2. Amazing lovers love sex. They bask in it, they luxuriate in it. If she knows he relishes oral sex, it helps her to relax into it, which triples the satisfaction. The same for him – it’s impossible to really enjoy being pleasured if you’re concerned about whether your lover likes your taste or your odour. Telling your partner how much you love sex is a gift..

3. Great lovers use their femininity or masculinity to their advantage. There is a subtle but powerful tension between opposites that evokes primal sexual energy and enhances pleasure. The more feminine she is the more masculine he can be and vice versa, which lifts sex to unexpected levels.

4. Extraordinary lovers let their partners know that they are irresistible. Nothing is more effective to revive a sex life gone stale than making each other feel attractive. Saying it is one thing, but it’s even more effective when you show your partner how much pleasure you take in their body. Great lovers delight in each other.

5. Remarkable lovers understand that defining great sex is personal and they’re able to celebrate their differences. There is no one-way-is-the-right-way, or even worse, my-way-is-the-only-way. For one person amazing sex might mean being able to give and receive white-hot orgasms, for another it might be about adventure and play, and for yet another it might be about feeling amazingly close and connected while wrapped in a lover’s arms. Instead of assuming, great lovers communicate: they ask what feels great and tells the same. Even if couples have been in a relationship for years, they can still surprise each other and learn new things about each other.

6. The best lovers know that sensational sex is not only about intercourse. The act of sex is only one part of making love. There is a smorgasbord of pleasurable activities available. Great lovers understand the dance of seduction, and that exploration is essential: playing out fantasies, using sex toys, climaxing in different ways. It’s important to give each other permission to do whatever is desired in any given situation. If she sometimes prefers a vibrator to his tongue, that’s okay. If he sometimes wants a hand-job rather than penetration, why not?

7. Great lovers never, ever compare their partners to anyone else, and especially not to former relationships. It’s easy, when referencing other liaisons – good or bad – to stray mentally, emotionally, or physically from the one you’re in. Each new relationship brings its own responsibility to make it the most satisfying it can be.

8. Sensational lovers aren’t afraid to show their vulnerable side. This goes to the heart of being willing to trust someone you love with your particular weaknesses. The more open you are to sharing your softer side, the more protective your partner will become. Why? Because that’s just what love does.

How to be a great lover is just one part of the better sex 4 women puzzle. We hope you stick around to get the full picture! –Dr Mia Glanville